There’s a recent dating show where men and women go on dates in special-effects makeup as monsters.
Some dress up as pandas, yaks, roosters…
(Want to go on a date with a monster?)
Others dress up as magic dragons, demons, the Hulk…
(Or maybe like this?)
I asked my friend: “What do you want your date to dress up as for a blind date?”
“Aliens! I’m totally into it!” she gushed. “Like Doja Cat’s look in Need To Know!”
“Of course, the Na’vi from Avatar work too～”
We’ve talked about many sexual fantasies before, such as threesomes/group sex fantasies and coercion fantasies. Today, let’s briefly talk about alien fantasies — alienophilia.
(Friendly reminder: The following descriptions involve tentacles, slime, etc. We will not include relevant images, but please view with caution if you are sensitive to this content.)
01. What Are Sexual Fantasies
Alienophilia is a type of sexual fantasy involving sexual activity with extraterrestrial beings.
First, let’s recap — what is a sexual fantasy?
A sexual fantasy is a mental image or thought pattern that triggers sexual arousal or desire in a person. Anything that can spark sexual arousal may give rise to sexual fantasies, and sexual arousal in turn can fuel sexual fantasies.
Sexual fantasies can arise spontaneously from one’s imagination or memories, or be triggered by external stimuli such as erotic content.
Our sexuality is like snowflakes — everyone has a wide range of sexual fantasies. Some may be bizarre or terrifying, and some may seem to go against ethics. The most important thing is to draw a clear line between fantasy and reality, and not recklessly act out every sexual fantasy in real life.
Many people even feel disappointed or uninterested after acting out their sexual fantasies.
“Ultimately, as long as sexual fantasies do not harm others, remain controllable, and do not interfere with daily life, they are normal imaginings.”
In the documentary Sex Explained, sexologists categorize sexual fantasies into three main types: group sex fantasies, novel sexual behavior fantasies, and power/control-based fantasies.
The “alienophilia” we discuss today is a broad concept. Rather than a longing for outer space or aliens, it refers to sexual fantasies about non-human life forms/monsters.
The term originated from literary works, coined by erotic writer Supervert in his 2001 book Extraterrestrial Sex Fetish. It is a concept in erotic art and culture, not recognized by psychiatric professionals.
02. The Tentacle Element in Alienophilia Content
Perhaps you’ve come across such images while browsing for adult toys online — brightly colored, twisted, soft yet firm silicone toys that exude a dangerous yet alluring vibe.
These are alien-shaped masturbation toys resembling octopus tentacles, used for penetrative sexual activity (vaginal or anal).
This is a key element in alien fantasies — tentacle.
In fact, most erotic content that appears when searching for alien-themed pornography is tentacle erotica.
It is a traditional erotic genre combining bestiality elements and horror-sci-fi themes, common in Japanese erotic creations. In the 21st century, this type of Japanese content has become more widespread in the United States and Europe. It mostly depicts sexual activity between humans and fictional tentacled monsters, primarily women and rarely men.
A reminder: Always draw a clear line between fantasy and reality! If you have alienophilia and want to fulfill this fantasy with your partner during sex, please note the following:
1. Communicate with your partner in advance to clarify both parties’ boundaries and comfort levels.
2. Follow the informed consent principle throughout; both partners have the right to stop at any time.
3. When using large toys such as “tentacle masturbation toys”, control the force to avoid vaginal/anal tearing.
4. Avoid inserting fragile objects into the body, as they may be difficult to remove safely.
If you and your partner are hesitant about this, ask yourselves these questions:
1. Does this sexual fantasy satisfy both of us, or will it damage our intimate relationship?
2. Is acting out this fantasy important to me? If it’s only to spice things up, can I use safer and more comfortable ways to enhance our sex life?
Lastly, wish everyone a safe and happy sexual experience～